Wednesday, April 12, 2017

5 Things I'm Grateful For Today

When running a blog like mine, it's easy to fall into the "woe is me tale" the grind of the daily and it isn't always very pretty. In mine, mostly it isn't. But, I was thinking about it and I thought it about time to focus on the good in life.

5. My Husband. Oh where would I be without him? Even before I married him he was a great significant other always there for me through my surgeries. He held my hand through some of life's roughest moments.

4. My Stepson. So, he is 17 now and there are days you just want to scream at him because he just went there... but under is all he is still that 10 year old boy that filled a whole in my heart I didn't know I had.

3. Children everywhere. There is our future, right there. It just amazes me to see so much potential. And all that under the love and care only the surrounding adults in their life.

2. My Blog. Yeah, it's little and doesn't get much traffic for now. But, I love my blog. I love working on it and writing for it. It's my contribution to the world.

1. My Husband. Oooops, I already mentioned him, but it deems repeating because he is so awesome! Our two year marriage anniversary is coming up and after that our 8 years together anniversary

What are you most grateful for?

p.s. I am aware of my colossal spelling mistake in the graphic. I'm sorry, I just figured that all was done and I couldn't fix it or start over. So, just so you can see for sure, we are all human. 

Saturday, April 8, 2017

I Could Be A Better Friend

I could be a better friend to my friend A.R. Stanley (Check out her blog at by doing stuff like that, LOL. I used to always share her link and push her site just as much as I pushed mine on social media. I should start doing that more. We used to hang out at least once a month. Last Christmas we kinda stopped doing that so much. We should hang out again.

Do you have a friend you could be a better friend too.

Wednesday, March 29, 2017

10 Things I Wish I'd Known When I Started Blogging

I never would have thought that I'd ever catch myself writing this post because, well everyone else has this post on Pinterest and how could I ever possibly even hope to write a post on the topic that hasn't already been covered. But, then I realized it isn't about the stuff that is covered, but the way it is presented that makes my post unique. With that in mind, allow me to proceed.

1. Wordpress is awesome!
    Yes, I had the chance to use Wordpress for a year and I must say I went through some serious withdrawals when my year was up and there was no money for another year. Maybe I will go back in the future, I don't know, but I can tell you it was an incredible experience.

2. Blogger is cool too.
    That being said, Wordpress in complicated for the novice and the expert alike. I've been blogging for over half my life and I'm telling you, it was almost like being a mechanic in the ways I had to work with it to do what I wanted it to do. Some days I didn't post but spent over 8 hours tinkering on Wordpress to get it do what I wanted. Exausting!

3. Cheat at it
    What?!?!?!?!?!?! OH NO I DIDN'T! But, oh yes I did. What I mean is, yes, you probably have seen lots of beautiful blogs out there that you want to emulate your design after, but if you are new to design and don't have the money to buy a design from those that make designs for a business... you are going to have to fake it till you make it. I've done an up close photo of a flower and used picmonkey to edit it into a homemade logo. keep your background pure white and for simple then you can ad a pop of edge with lines, or flowers for the feminine touch. There are so many freebie graphics out there that you are welcome to use if you search to find them.

4. Be you, and change if you change,
    Yes I've been blogging for over half my life, but no, it wasn't on the same blog. I had a blog about my dating life fore awhile (hint, if you can write a whole blog on the topic, you are doing it wrong. Haha) I wrote a single parent diary type of blog for awhile. I had a blog just on the topic of making money online... and that sort of led into this blog which is life at the poverty level and making the best of it. Now you see why I'm on Blogger.

5. A domain name is a must. I never really had much in the way of readers until I got a domain name and started just spinning out graphics with my domain name on it to all my socialmedia platforms.

6. Be super addicted to socialmedia.
    People will find you, based on how active you are. These means lots of selfies, videos, posts, and more. I make graphics with my usernames on them with "follow me on: (twitter). 

7. It's okay to go mental
    Soooo many times I've had to just walk away and leave it be. Everything from coding issues to writer's block. Sometimes I gotta just walk away.

8. Content
    If I had listed this in order of importance I would have put first. Content is the base of a blog. Try some blog challenges or writer prompts. 

9. Write for you
    You are your own target audience. That is why you have a voice, no matter how quirky you (and your blog) may be... There is an audience for that.

10. Blog with a friend.
    My real life Bestie and I sometimes get together when we blog. We drink coffee and talk. And of course, work on our respective blogs. Whether you share a blog with your friend, or have separate blogs, working together helps get more done. Unless you hardly see each other... Then you end chatting instead of working.

Friday, March 24, 2017

A Week In My Life

I've been meaning to write this one for a while. I'm not a super exciting person to hang with for a day. But a week seems to attract more action than a mere day. Plus I don't have to deal time stamps. I hate those things.

Sunday: I'm going to start my week with Sunday. It isn't "the Lord's day around here" well, for my mother in law it is. For Mike and I it is more of a day of resting up. We might go to the gas station for some frozen treats or we might just spend all day binge watching TV, snacks included.

Monday: Well this Monday, Hubby got a call saying that he has his old job back if he wants it. Of course he does. He does in home healthcare provider for his mother. Basically what we do everyday, anyway. Might as well get paid for it! This was really good news for us because it almost doubles our current income. Probably just enough to kick us off of Medicaid and foodstamps. Lol. I don't know what will come yet. But, we don't want to live in poverty forever. And we could just really use this break right now. We will just cross that bridge when we get to it.

Tuesday: I went to the doctor. It was supposed to be Thursday, but then other stuff came up for that day so we asked if they would move us. My doctor still remains surprised that I am walking around. I have horrible Fibromyalgia and Sarcoidosis, Rheumatoid Arthritis, and I have 0 Serotonin in my brain, so I should never be happy, or be out of bed hardly. I fight hard for the little bit I do. But, anyhow, I had a heart attack show up on my EKG and the doctor wanted me to do a Stress test. That is one of the things scheduled for Thursday too.

Wednesday: A pretty uneventful day. Mike took my Stepson in to the dentist. He got 2 fillings and was in a particular poopy mood for the rest of the day. Which we should be used to by now, he is a teenager and going through that phase.

Thursday: Oh happy day! Haha. So, morning time hubby drags me out of bed so I can get to my stress test. I took it easy while getting ready. I want to save all my energy for the stress test. I only clock in 2 min and 11 sec on the treadmill. Mike tried to pick me up Sunday and it sort of popped my hip wonky. In way to much pain to continue. Later we take Mike to the Psychiatrist, He only just now got his Medicaid too. So, he needed this appointment badly. (Hubby isn't Psycho or anything, just regular mental illness) Get to the place and they tell him that his appointment was changed for next Monday. Not too bad, except we are almost out of gas.

Friday: Today Mike worked all day with his brother. Sometimes his brother needs help with house rehabilitation and takes Mike along for extra help. It isn't steady, but it's a little extra just when we need it. I spent the day trying and failing to find an easy way to turn this blog into an app on my phone. Just wanted to make it easier to share my posts on the go.

Saturday: Last day of the week is spent running errands before our mini hibernation on Sunday. We play Pokémon Go and go for drives to talk to each other about what all is on our minds.

How did you spend this week?

Wednesday, March 22, 2017

What it's Like Living on Less Than $900.00

Let's be honest, at first the budget was more like less than $800.00 and we made that work. I'm going to provide you with both scenarios.

Scenario One:

Income $769.00 a month

$480.00 for rent in an apartment. The struggle was real, but it paid for most utilities and in the Summer I could write off the extra electric bill and get more foodstamp... no shame. Poverty.
$90.00 for the two cellphones. We are always on our smartphones and my company is the best. If you also struggle with Poverty and want smartphones for cheap, go to Cricket phone stores. Tell them Kimberli Lockett sent you and we both get an extra discount. I'm just saying, I've shopped around and I can't find a better deal out there. And if you are attached to your phone, they will swap out sim cards for you so you.
$21.00 spenddown I'm on Disability and Medicaid pays for a lot of my medical expenses. I have them take this directly out of my account, but we still have to be careful and watch for it to be taken out before we decide we have "extra" money to spend.
$40.00 gas. I'm nick pick with my budget so I went to the local gas station and bought a prepaid card, every month I add money to it too keep up the budget.
Everything may seem like fall money, but it isn't. Toiletries to be purchased, medication to be bought. Hubby has a copay for his insurance. And then we get to have some fun. A new book for me, a fancy lighter for Hubby. It changes month to month. Last month we both bought clothes.

Scenario Two:

Income $869.00 lets see, long story short, they were hanging on to $150.00 a month and I didn't have Medicaid, so it was touch and go.

$400.00 to mother-in-law for help around the house.
$400.00 in foodstamps... kind of cancels it out a bit.
$90.00 those phones, I actually make money with my phone.
$40:00 gas for mother-in-law's car so I hubby and I can get our share of Doctor's appointments and dates out of it too.
$21.00 for my Medicaid spenddown, this may change because of the different living situation.
The rest again goes towards medication, Hubby's copay, and other important things that pop up in life. Sometimes we even afford fun stuff. Like next month, I'm getting a new swimsuit, my old one was all ratty and torn up from constant use.

Sunday, March 5, 2017


Yes, my computer has finally been fixed and that means I'm back to blogging and I'm so excited. Mike and I have tossed around the idea of me going back to a self hosted platform, not sure if we are going to do that yet. What I do know is that I'm not done with blogging by a long shot. I love it way too much!

So, how did the computer get broke in the first place? It was a simple oopsie. Mike tripped over the charger cable while it was plugged in and it ended up ripping off a piece of the computer casing with it. It cost nearly $200.00 to fix it so if any of my readers need to fix this on their computer, beware of how much it can cost. A lot. And for a couple in the poverty income bracket it was a tough bullet to bite.

In other news we have moved in with my Mother in law. She hasn't been doing very well and Mike wanted to be able to help her round the clock. So, we set ourselves back a bit and moved in. Why is it a setback? Well, if something were to happen to her, we could be potentially homeless for awhile. Best not think about that until we have to.

I have decided to pick up couponing, freebies and book reviewing again. Also I'm thinking of doing some more giveaways coming up.

Maybe I should stay with blogger. Make those giveaways a lot easier!

Well, till next time, my lovelies!

Friday, December 16, 2016

Being Homeless: Part One

Wait, what? Thought I said I was super frugal and used to be in the Air Force and a total nerd. How does someone like that become homeless? Well, that part is kind of a long story. But, the short of it is that people become homeless all the time for so many, many reasons.

I remember not long before I became Homeless I was having a lot of vehicle trouble with the Mercury Mini Van my brother (or maybe my sister-in-law posing as my brother) convinced me was a good buy.

Anyhow, my Uncle had come to get me and decided to chit chat the whole way back to my errant van. What was the talk about? His work with the homeless. I remember it really standing out to me that he said it's all about choices, all it takes is one bad choice and a person is homeless. Of course he meant things like alcohol (in my family there is this huge branch that believes that one sip makes you an alcoholic.) Drugs and stuff like that. But, I'm living proof that there are other ways you can find yourself homeless. And, being homeless can be a life changing event that catapults you into learning how to be even more thrifty and watching what you spend.

It all started, I guess after my brother died. I know, I know, I keep promising to tell that story. I'm thinking of saving it for the anniversary of his birthday. Which is coming up, so you can look forward to that... I guess. I was in a deep dark place at the time and my rent accrued because I just didn't have the will to live really. Sure, I had many other siblings, but at that time the trajectory of the others ending up in a similar position was pretty high for most of them. I just went to my Mom's and let my bills go and just laid there wasting away. My mom pulled me up and forced me to go to college, which forced me to do things like shower, dress, and eat.

I went back home because it was a lot closer to college and my mom suggested that I move one of my sisters in with me, to keep me company and me help keep her off the path my brother went down. It didn't turn out so well because the guy that got her into all that was like a rat around the house. I would beat him away my broom and he would sneak back in. He stole so much money from me that I took to hiding it in my laundry soap bottles to keep him out of it! I'd through all his stuff in trash bags and toss it out of the house before heading off to school and come home and he'd be back in the house with all his stuff and his friends invited over for a party. That was a nightmare alone to live through. I can guarantee that. Then my Land Lady suddenly decided she had changed her mind about our agreement for me to pay back the back pay in bits and pieces until it was all paid off. I woke up one morning to the Sheriff flushing my Bipolar meds down the toilet and several other tenants throwing my stuff outside. I was in shock! I  had to go through my own stuff and shove as much as I could in my mini van, my first thought was to just run away. No matter that I had met a really cute guy at school that I had a huge crush on.

I took off across the state and ended up running over a piece of semi tire, it totally tipped the oil pan under the van and forced me to pull over. So, everything I have left in the world is in this van and it's useless to me. For those not mechanically inclined I'm sure I don't have to explain that no oil is a huge no go. That's why we go to Valvoline when our husbands make us... or do you go for the super man candy?

Anyhow, this adorable old Sheriff pulls up and runs my plates and my license and he gives me a ride to his office that felt like it was a rip off of the Andy Griffith show. I called my younger brother and told him what happened he was pretty put out that my first thought wasn't to call him for help (though his wife makes most of us second guess asking him for even asking if we can hang out with him.

So he paid to have my van towed and fixed. Then he demanded that I come and stay in his guest bedroom.

I did this for about a month. It was a rough life. I mean, I love my brother to pieces. We grew up with a pretty close bond because we are only 13 months apart. We have always looked out for each other. As much as we could. But, yeah, his (well fiancé at the time) really couldn't respect my personal boundaries and would pull the "under my roof" card when I got mad at her for going through my stuff. My brother couldn't get why I would keep all my stuff in my van still and use the laundromat and Burger King Wi-Fi instead of his. Especially when I was desperately sick with Strep Throat after cleaning out his basement. The local sewage had backed up into many of the neighborhood basements that year after HEAVY rainage. I helped him all day long cleaning out the basement. With being underinsured I would buy minced garlic and eat a spoonful before bed at night.

The final straw was around Halloween I was sick in bed and his fiancé sent me a text after a night of them partying and told me to clean up her vomit in the bathroom before she got home from work. I sent her back "hahaha" and of course she wasn't amused and told my brother I wasn't picking up my share of the work. He was really upset with me. So, I drove over to my Uncle's house and spent the night over there. But, my sister's old boyfriend (remember him) was mad that she was leaving him and broke in and stole my purse. This included my house key to my brother's house.

My brother's wife to be made sure I was not welcome back. My Mom came and got me and I moved onto her couch for the next year.

Maybe this is not considered homeless to many, but I assure you, it is. And this isn't even the end of the story.

I just figured this would be a good stopping point before part two where you find out the rest.

<strong>Have you ever been homeless? Have you ever felt like homeless people don't pull their fair share in life or have done something to earn their lot in life? Be honest. I won't take offense. I promise. I'm here to share and educate. Not beat you over the head.</strong>

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